Thursday, September 11, 2014

YOUR SELF - IMAGE IS IMPORTANT

Quoting Larry Levin, again, We all have a picture of ourselves in our subconscious. This picture is called the self image. The self-image controls everything we do in life. It is what we believe to be true about ourselves. It may not necessarily be true, but it is what we believe to be true. Our self-image has a stronger hold on us than you could ever imagine. A good example is someone trying to lose weight. Many times people have the picture of themselves as an overweight person. They attempt to try and lose weight using willpower. They go to the gym, try and eat healthier foods and avoid fatty foods. All that is great. But the reason most people can’t lose weight (or they gain it right back) is because they have that powerful picture of themselves as an overweight person fighting against them. They cant think of themselves as a fit and thin person. 

The same is true about whether you deserve to make money as a trader. If you have a self-image that states it isn’t right to be able to make money so quickly, then you will be fighting a losing battle against your powerful self-image. The self-image will always win.

Just like the person trying to lose weight, you will only become successful when you have the correct picture of yourself. The picture must be of a person who is deserving of making money in the trading environment. If that is not the picture you currently have of yourself, you’ll need to change that picture. Take a cue from the picture to the left. This meek cat thinks that its a lion and therefore has the feelings of fearlessness. Dont be the girl on the left who feels weighed down by the pressure from family and peers.

Self esteem is your opinion of yourself. High self esteem is a good opinion of yourself and low self esteem is a bad opinion of yourself. Self esteem is crucial and is a cornerstone of a positive attitude towards living. 
    
It is very important because it affects how you think, act and even how you relate to other people. It allows you to live life to your potential. Low self esteem means poor confidence and that also causes negative thoughts which means that you are likely to give up easily rather than face challenges. In addition, it has a direct bearing on your happiness and wellbeing. Some tips that can help you improve your self image:

1. Do what you love.

Everyone loves to do something, when you indulge yourself in what you love, you improve the way you feel about yourself. You improve your self image. Think about this in the context of your trading.


2. Acknowledge your strengths

There is no one who has no strengths. Everyone is good at something, know what your good at and give yourself a pat on the back. Do things that bring this quality out into the open. Excercise it, make it stronger. It will give you the confidence to do other things including trading much better.


3. Don’t put up with crap.

There is no reason you should tolerate other people being mean to you. Even if they say they are doing it with love. Make sure people know they should be nice to you and if they refuse, walk away from them. This is important in the context of people thinking that you will only lose money in trading. Only you know that if you trade smartly, you will be the winner!


4. Do your research

A lof of self help books are a waste of time in the sense that the only person who can change you is you. Reading even this section will not change you unless you get emotionally involved with the information. Which is really hard as it can sometimes feel really dry and boring. Go read biographies of people you respect, people who do positvive things and attain huge success. Look for a mentor you can help you. Its worth the money and time spent, instead of meandering around aimlessly. 



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